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By: aja

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By: Vinja

Vinja — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 13:24:38 +0000

the wrong assumption some comments here base upon, is that monogamy is relatively “new”, historically unbased. this is simply false – christianity is monogamous from its start, as well as Judaism before it. Throughout known history monogamy has been the only, or one of the forms of male-female behavior. Even with polygamy, (i.e Islam) there was (and is) a firm set of rules, which was a result of cultural and historical needs.

Lastly, i’d like to point out that humans were “engineered” also to kill each other, die in late 20′s (if not sooner killed), use brute force to dominate others (especially females, to rape them) etc. Point is – not every urge is good to be followed.

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By: JP

JP — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 16:58:31 +0000

Well said.

By: Raelian

Raelian — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 02:31:20 +0000

Cheating is a myth. We don’t “cheat” on each other. Humans were not genetically engineered to be faithful to one person their entire lives. As we go through life, our likes and interests change. So why shouldn’t that include our relationships with people?

What is the origin of marriage. What is its purpose? Think about it – it doesn’t make any sense. If your current partner cheats on you, you should be happy. Yes, happy! Why, because your partner is happy. That’s true love. Unfortunately, our society doesn’t not truly understand the concept of love. Love isn’t sexual or an attraction. It’s about doing for others without asking anything in return, putting other’s happiness before yours. With this model, marriage doesn’t make sense.

Marriage and monogamous relationships will soon end. It’s just the way is. Now don’t be alarmed if you find a co-worker attractive and you are married. Don’t suppress it — you weren’t engineered for it. Enjoy it, tell your partner! And if they truly love you, they will be happy for you! It’s that simple.

Good luck, Earthlings. May you one day understand your purpose and origin.

By: Mike

Mike — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 04:15:43 +0000

oops, wrong thoughs *those*

By: Mike

Mike — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 04:14:01 +0000

1# (David #1)Not only is monogamy NOT a phenomenon, the practice of marriage is biblical. You were to be true to your vows you took before God.

2# I can see where you (David #1) would say genetics would play into a man or woman cheating but do you have to act upon thoughs urges? Hell, Im married not dead. I still look. Its in all humans to sin, but also in all humans to make the choice to honor his or her vows.

By: Jay

Jay — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 18:52:39 +0000

On the topic of guilt in relationships. Guilt is when you know you’ve done something that’s against the values of your partner.

“Guilt is also a self imposed neurosis stemming from repressive beliefs.” – David#1

If you *chose* a relationship and you don’t feel guilty for violating the beliefs and values of your partner then there is a problem.

This is more about having respect for another human being. If you both find it okay for casual flings that’s fine. But don’t agree to be in a relationship while you behave otherwise and expect it to be okay.

By: Jay

Jay — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 17:46:00 +0000

Amen.

By: rachel

rachel — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 22:47:38 +0000

i think david #1 is referring to a much larger picture of humanity than you are used to thinking about, david #2. he is looking at things in a very anthropological way, whereas you are seeing through the “goggles” so to speak of your upbringing and the culture and experiences you have grown up in. when you don’t know any different it is hard to see how anything else could possibly be good or right, i suppose.

i understand what he is getting at, and in a way you are further proving his point.

interesting stuff, this whole being-a-person thing is.