Comments on: Does Facebook Mess Up Relationships?

By: jamie stoetzel

jamie stoetzel — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 02:37:41 +0000

hey my girlfriends now ex cheated on me with her friend on myspace husband she didn’t even know the girl she just because she went to the same high school and acted like they were buddy buddy and started watching there kids the husbands kids from a prevous marriage . then went out and kissed him and dancing and then lead me on for the past two months using me for money. let me know what u think

By: Countrygurl

Countrygurl — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 15:35:57 +0000

I don’t believe that Facebook its self messes up a marriage…but it give someone an opportunity to hang them selves. If there wasn’t facebook, it would be a lot harder to find someone that will send you bad pics etc. Facebook ruined my life. my husband cheated on me with people he met there and people he found from his highschool. There need to be some rulee made by facebook…no sexy pics…etc.

By: David

David — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 19:48:47 +0000

I know 12 years is a long time, but why are you still together if you dont trust him anymore?
If you have to spend your time playing detective, then why not move on?
If it happened once, it will happen again.
I believe in 2nd chances of course, but he would absolutely have to be remorseful and not want to lose you to ever take a chance like that again.

By: David

David — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 19:45:41 +0000

That’s too bad. I feel for you. I’m happy you found out BEFORE the actual wedding though.
You’re right. It’s not the internet, it’s the person.

By: Bruce

Bruce — Wed, 19 May 2010 16:52:51 +0000

Yes your friend has to add/apparove you as friend in order for you to view his site. MAKE NO MISTAKE OF THIS! Believe me I just got with my ex a week ago. I left him for the first in 12 years due to this flirting exchanging messages via facebook. Until I found out I was outrage, angry and went ballistic. Had I not discover this, he would have probably continued until it leads to a personal meeting and then sort of kinda relationship. You really have to do your own investigations and always trust your intuition and guts! WOMEN have such a strong feeling of distrust when it comes to their partner or significant one. DO whatever you have to do. Since we are back together, I have confronted him about his flirting and other shenanigans he’s been doing over the net with a woman. But I will still continue to do whatever I have to do. You can’t really trust them once they started they will tell you they will stop or have stopped not knowing that they are still very active.

By: Bladimir Quinones

Bladimir Quinones — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 04:39:45 +0000

Well!.. in my opinion I don’t think is the Facebook what affects your relationship, what I really think it affects your relationship to get mess up is how the values and moral principles that a relationship could have each other, if you see that your wife has lost the respect on you is because something wrong is happening, especially respect, I don’t know but my conclusion is respect, respect, respect… but let me tell you this My “future wife” engaged and all that; was cheating on me with the engagedment ring on, having two daughters which one is mine but like I said is about values and moral principels counting first as a mother then a woman, I caught her with a guy that was her first boyfriend in high school and I created her facebook when we used to live together and one of her days she started to look for this guy through the facebook and then she found him, she started interacting by phone behind my back and one night after work on my way home I was carrying a check for $2000 for her so she can buy her dress for the wedding and when I got home I found her with him.. you know!!.. that’s how everyything end up, so that’s why I don’t blame facebook I blame her for being a liar, and a B***H!!!!

By: ElT

ElT — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 20:53:28 +0000

By: Sonny

Sonny — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 00:22:03 +0000

I do agree, that if “Myspace” or “Facebook” are having some sort of influence one way or another in your relationship then , yes most likely there are some issues that have already seeded themselves ion your backyard.

Ive been in a relationship for 6 years. When we 1st got the internet up and running we of course spent alot of time just roaming around getting familiar with all the information that out there. THEN once my man became aware (from his friends), of all the different social sites that are there, dating sites, etc, it was on. He created his site, once he realized how much attention he could get from women that he didn’t even know and probably would never know, he became like addicted to hit. Not only was he spending all of his free time building up his site, but he was then so focused on the comments and interest that other women were giving him that it became like his own little private area that he didn’t wanted me included in.

After some time I became hip to what was going on, and creasted my own site, actually friend did it for me. It had all the bling, glitter, cook pics, great “hook” song etc. With of course a bomb picture to boot. Then of course once he checked out my page he got a little concern, expecially when all of sudden I had 375 friends, mostly men mind you that were constantly telling me how beautiful I was, they wanted to date me, so on, and so on. I wasnt into for those reasons and have had my fair share of male attention, lets just say that I wasnt enticed by it.

I guess he got bored with that and over to Facebook and now he wont approve me as a friend. He says because he wants me to stay out of business? Is that possible? I’m not quite sure how Facebook works, but does someone have to approve you as friend in order for you to view their “business”?

By: Derrick Watkins

Derrick Watkins — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 22:37:19 +0000

Facebook does not mess up relationships! It is probably already messed up and facebook only pours gasoline on the fire! If you are insecure, dishonest, immature, selfish and not into your relationship totally, facebook can assist you in being the low-life that you are ready are.

Derrick Watkins
Author: Why Good Girls Date Bad Boys