Comments on: Is Facebook Another Word For Cheat Book? Its Easy To Have A Facebook Affair http://www.facebookcheating.com/archives/facebook-cheating/ Dealing With Facebook Affairs, Adultery and Infidelity Wed, 08 Sep 2010 13:18:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Jim http://www.facebookcheating.com/archives/facebook-cheating/#comment-566 Jim Wed, 08 Sep 2010 13:18:38 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?p=3#comment-566 Hi, I just found your site this morning and I am going through the same thing. I have know that my wife was trying to look up old boyfriends before, and became addicted to social networking sites a long time ago. About 6 months ago she started to just disappear for 2-3 hours to get one thing at the store, and started after being online for 6-8 hours at a time would come to me angry and start a fight. I realize later this was so she could get sympathy from her online friends who new about the affair. One night I checked her phone that she just had to have 6 months ago and found that she had been sending an old boyfriend sexual photos and messages for the entire time she had this phone. I think she has been talking too him for longer than that. I think she is a full blown narcisisst now, the entire world is about her. I have a good job ( for now ) but have to do all the housework, cook for our kids, clean the house, etc, while she does whatever she feels like, or lays in bed texting her "friends". We have 12 year old and a 9 year old sons, and I want to try to work through this and save our marriage if possible. She said that when he found out I knew that he cut if off, but I think its a lie. She admits that she has seen him since, and I know that she still wants to give her heart to him. I know I can never really trust her again, but I am just in it for the kids right now, even though with her narcissism it is not really worth it even now. Jim Hi, I just found your site this morning and I am going through the same thing. I have know that my wife was trying to look up old boyfriends before, and became addicted to social networking sites a long time ago. About 6 months ago she started to just disappear for 2-3 hours to get one thing at the store, and started after being online for 6-8 hours at a time would come to me angry and start a fight. I realize later this was so she could get sympathy from her online friends who new about the affair. One night I checked her phone that she just had to have 6 months ago and found that she had been sending an old boyfriend sexual photos and messages for the entire time she had this phone. I think she has been talking too him for longer than that. I think she is a full blown narcisisst now, the entire world is about her. I have a good job ( for now ) but have to do all the housework, cook for our kids, clean the house, etc, while she does whatever she feels like, or lays in bed texting her “friends”.

We have 12 year old and a 9 year old sons, and I want to try to work through this and save our marriage if possible. She said that when he found out I knew that he cut if off, but I think its a lie. She admits that she has seen him since, and I know that she still wants to give her heart to him. I know I can never really trust her again, but I am just in it for the kids right now, even though with her narcissism it is not really worth it even now.

Jim

]]> By: Robyn http://www.facebookcheating.com/archives/facebook-cheating/#comment-505 Robyn Wed, 04 Aug 2010 07:42:03 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?p=3#comment-505 Hi, I feel for the people that have expressed their stories regarding cheating that has taken place due to Facebook . My fiancee who I had been with for 9 years reconnected with a woman that he knewin high school and left me for her. She abandoned her kids and move 500 miles to live with him. The hurt that comes with cheating is mind blowing. You dont trust people and it is hard to form new relationship s because you still remember the hurt from the betrayal in the last relationship . I hope that the people that have been cheated on due to Facebook connections are able to move on and find a great person that will trat them the way they deserve to be treated. I wish for the cheaters and the ones they cheated with karma .....Karma is a bitch and what goes around comes around ........so they will get it back . It is too bad that we cant be there to see the payback they get. Good luck to all the hearts that have been broken and I hope that my heart as well as all of the others heal and learn to trust again . Good Luck and know that Love is out there ........And what is waiting is going to be better then what you had in the past.............. All of my best........ Robyn Hi,
I feel for the people that have expressed their stories regarding cheating that has taken place due to Facebook . My fiancee who I had been with for 9 years reconnected with a woman that he knewin high school and left me for her. She abandoned her kids and move 500 miles to live with him.

The hurt that comes with cheating is mind blowing. You dont trust people and it is hard to form new relationship s because you still remember the hurt from the betrayal in the last relationship . I hope that the people that have been cheated on due to Facebook connections are able to move on and find a great person that will trat them the way they deserve to be treated.

I wish for the cheaters and the ones they cheated with karma …..Karma is a bitch and what goes around comes around ……..so they will get it back . It is too bad that we cant be there to see the payback they get. Good luck to all the hearts that have been broken and I hope that my heart as well as all of the others heal and learn to trust again .

Good Luck and know that Love is out there ……..And what is waiting is going to be better then what you had in the past…………..
All of my best……..

Robyn

]]> By: Duane D. http://www.facebookcheating.com/archives/facebook-cheating/#comment-502 Duane D. Wed, 04 Aug 2010 05:30:21 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?p=3#comment-502 I am the writer, producer and director of a heart pumping, dramatic film called "Rendezvous". The film is centered around Infidelity. Already creating a great deal of buzz. Take a moment to check out the link to the trailer below. Thanks & Enjoy. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m86XvofI-bo RENDEZVOUSTHEMOVIE.COM I am the writer, producer and director of a heart pumping, dramatic film called “Rendezvous”. The film is centered around Infidelity. Already creating a great deal of buzz. Take a moment to check out the link to the trailer below. Thanks & Enjoy.

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]]> By: ex riverview, fl http://www.facebookcheating.com/archives/facebook-cheating/#comment-499 ex riverview, fl Wed, 04 Aug 2010 02:27:02 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?p=3#comment-499 I feel empathy for the people who posted their stories about cheating partners who use the weapon of facebook to hurt others. I was engaged to a man who was my high school sweet heart. We reconnected after about 20 years. I moved into his Riverview, FL, house, with my then, 12 year old son, and my son turned thirteen during my time with this man. My ex-fiancé would constantly go into the back bedroom, in which we converted into an office to use his personal laptop. He would close the door. I would give him privacy as I thought he was studying for various network engineer certifications. He was not; he was cheating on facebook with any female that he could get to befriend him. When I googled him one day and discovered that he was all over the Internet on social networking sites trying to find females, I asked him to relinquish all of the sites, including facebook. He deleted some of the demure sites and lied about getting rid of the facebook page. He even perpetuated this elaborate lie that he would E-mail those at facebook responsible for closing the page and ask them to take it down. My ex’s excuse was that he was using facebook to make reaI estate contacts in Florida and get contacts from Canada. He even enunciated that his dad had a facebook page, as if that was supposed to make cheating on facebook right for our relationship. He also used his cousin, who is a doctor, as an example of why facebook was perfectly fine to use. By the way, his cousin had ex’s as friends and other females who would constantly call him and he is a married man. I do not have a facebook page and I do not belong to any other social networking sites. I did not feel that I had to hide any of my social interactions with my ex. My ex did not extend the same respect to me. I knew he was lying about trying to get rid of the page and I would constantly question him about it. He would get violent and angry with me so I would change the subject. He never got rid of the page. He pretended like he was so nice and faithful. He was not. He was on facebook at work, home, and any time he could, cheating. I really believe that he was ready and willing to have sex with any female that would meet him from facebook at any location. There needs to be more emphasis on the diseases that are on the rise due to facebook connections. When I first reconnected with him, he had many condoms in his car ready so he could use his Blackberry to connect with females on facebook, and then meet them to have sex. I know for a fact that he would not use condoms sometimes because he told me that he was involved with a prostitute that he thought he got pregnant before we reconnected. My ex ended up attacking and assaulting me and my son. He did sustain two misdemeanor domestic violence assault charges and a felony false imprisonment charge. Good women must be careful who they establish relationships with. I packed up as many of my belongings as I could and left, never looking back. I will never date another man who has a facebook page. Facebook just makes it easy for people to cheat and hurt others, mentally, physically, emotionally, etc. I feel empathy for the people who posted their stories about cheating partners who use the weapon of facebook to hurt others. I was engaged to a man who was my high school sweet heart. We reconnected after about 20 years. I moved into his Riverview, FL, house, with my then, 12 year old son, and my son turned thirteen during my time with this man. My ex-fiancé would constantly go into the back bedroom, in which we converted into an office to use his personal laptop. He would close the door. I would give him privacy as I thought he was studying for various network engineer certifications. He was not; he was cheating on facebook with any female that he could get to befriend him. When I googled him one day and discovered that he was all over the Internet on social networking sites trying to find females, I asked him to relinquish all of the sites, including facebook. He deleted some of the demure sites and lied about getting rid of the facebook page. He even perpetuated this elaborate lie that he would E-mail those at facebook responsible for closing the page and ask them to take it down.
My ex’s excuse was that he was using facebook to make reaI estate contacts in Florida and get contacts from Canada. He even enunciated that his dad had a facebook page, as if that was supposed to make cheating on facebook right for our relationship. He also used his cousin, who is a doctor, as an example of why facebook was perfectly fine to use. By the way, his cousin had ex’s as friends and other females who would constantly call him and he is a married man. I do not have a facebook page and I do not belong to any other social networking sites. I did not feel that I had to hide any of my social interactions with my ex. My ex did not extend the same respect to me. I knew he was lying about trying to get rid of the page and I would constantly question him about it. He would get violent and angry with me so I would change the subject. He never got rid of the page. He pretended like he was so nice and faithful. He was not. He was on facebook at work, home, and any time he could, cheating. I really believe that he was ready and willing to have sex with any female that would meet him from facebook at any location. There needs to be more emphasis on the diseases that are on the rise due to facebook connections. When I first reconnected with him, he had many condoms in his car ready so he could use his Blackberry to connect with females on facebook, and then meet them to have sex. I know for a fact that he would not use condoms sometimes because he told me that he was involved with a prostitute that he thought he got pregnant before we reconnected. My ex ended up attacking and assaulting me and my son. He did sustain two misdemeanor domestic violence assault charges and a felony false imprisonment charge. Good women must be careful who they establish relationships with. I packed up as many of my belongings as I could and left, never looking back. I will never date another man who has a facebook page. Facebook just makes it easy for people to cheat and hurt others, mentally, physically, emotionally, etc.

]]> By: Ann http://www.facebookcheating.com/archives/facebook-cheating/#comment-495 Ann Tue, 03 Aug 2010 21:23:09 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?p=3#comment-495 Would counseling help? Open lines of communication are key and if he is shutting you out and has unfriended you things are very wrong. Any cheating weather emotional or physical is intolerable. I found out that the man I had been living with and wanted to marry, had cheated on his last girlfriend - with me. He reached out to me on facebook. He looked me up and he built on the past relationship we had and never told be that he was with someone. He started our relationship on a lie and when I found out, I realized he was doing to me what he had done to her. He started pushing me away, taking his phone into the bathroom and posting on facebook all the time. The week after I moved out he asked out a friend of mine that I had introduced him to and who he had facebook friended. I was unhappy and hurt when I suspected him of emotionally cheating. He refused to talk about it and refusted to go to couples therapy. We could not salvage our relationship. I hope that your husband is willing to work on your relationship and be the husband that you need and deserve. Good luck Would counseling help? Open lines of communication are key and if he is shutting you out and has unfriended you things are very wrong. Any cheating weather emotional or physical is intolerable. I found out that the man I had been living with and wanted to marry, had cheated on his last girlfriend – with me. He reached out to me on facebook. He looked me up and he built on the past relationship we had and never told be that he was with someone. He started our relationship on a lie and when I found out, I realized he was doing to me what he had done to her. He started pushing me away, taking his phone into the bathroom and posting on facebook all the time. The week after I moved out he asked out a friend of mine that I had introduced him to and who he had facebook friended. I was unhappy and hurt when I suspected him of emotionally cheating. He refused to talk about it and refusted to go to couples therapy. We could not salvage our relationship. I hope that your husband is willing to work on your relationship and be the husband that you need and deserve. Good luck

]]> By: Veronica http://www.facebookcheating.com/archives/facebook-cheating/#comment-488 Veronica Wed, 28 Jul 2010 07:36:39 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?p=3#comment-488 ty Rebecca...i already been in police....talk with chef of the police in private he is dad of my friend..he said without evidence i cant do anything and plus that he and his family are to rich...and in this stupid small city if u have money u have everything...his sister husbunt is 1 of the richest in State.I wanted to run to go in other country but if i run without kids then no way to get them back and if i divorce MAYBE i will keep 1 kid with me...:(( the worst is this society is not protecting victems,it protect people with money..:(( THANK YOU again for your time ty Rebecca…i already been in police….talk with chef of the police in private he is dad of my friend..he said without evidence i cant do anything and plus that he and his family are to rich…and in this stupid small city if u have money u have everything…his sister husbunt is 1 of the richest in State.I wanted to run to go in other country but if i run without kids then no way to get them back and if i divorce MAYBE i will keep 1 kid with me…:((
the worst is this society is not protecting victems,it protect people with money..:((
THANK YOU again for your time

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.facebookcheating.com/archives/facebook-cheating/#comment-487 Rebecca Tue, 27 Jul 2010 20:23:38 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?p=3#comment-487 Find a way to keep a record of what he is doing to you. Make sure your kids are safe. Don't look it up online, but try to find a way to get a resource that you can talk to about the abuse he is making you go through. Do you trust the doctor that performed your surgery? There could be ways that you can legally get him to stay away from you. I don't know you or all of your story, but it sounds like this man is extremely abusive. In my own history, if he is accusing you of something, he is guilty of it himself. Please, make sure your kids are safe. Find a way to keep a record of what he is doing to you. Make sure your kids are safe. Don’t look it up online, but try to find a way to get a resource that you can talk to about the abuse he is making you go through. Do you trust the doctor that performed your surgery? There could be ways that you can legally get him to stay away from you.

I don’t know you or all of your story, but it sounds like this man is extremely abusive. In my own history, if he is accusing you of something, he is guilty of it himself.

Please, make sure your kids are safe.

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.facebookcheating.com/archives/facebook-cheating/#comment-486 Rebecca Tue, 27 Jul 2010 20:16:38 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?p=3#comment-486 Thanks for this reply. I agree it is a two-way street, and I absolutely agree with the statement that you should trust your instincts. I was not married, but I had been dating a guy for years, and saw some indications (messages left on other women's myspace pages) and hiding his chat windows when I'd walk in the room, being vague about who the chat 'friends' are...you know the routine. Fast forward to him pulling out of the driveway while we were on vacation with me walking to the car, him on the way to a bar. He comes back drunk, passes out, and I have a bad feeling. I broke his trust by checking his text messages, and sure enough, there was a message to a girl on there. I felt broken by that, since--1) he left me in the driveway, 2) he texted her to tell her happy birthday at midnight, on the very day of her birthday, when he could barely remember (at 2 in the afternoon of my birthday) to tell me happy birthday, 3) he called her the pet name he called me. I confront him on everything that was bothering me, and of course he denies it. I'm being too sensitive, I'm reading too much into it, I had no right...ok, you got me on the last one, but if I hadn't snooped, what more would you have done? I have not always been a saint, but none of us are. I had not even talked to anyone in a flirty way without letting them know that I have a boyfriend. Cheating, unfortunately, involves more than the two people that are committing the act. He involved himself with another girl(s), and didnt' bother to break it off with me. I felt cheated on. It was him betraying our agreement of exclusivity. He was getting emotional satisfaction from someone else, he was not letting me satisfy him, and I couldn't. I understand that we each have people in our lives that we share different things with. I have friends that I talk work problems with, I have friends that I talk relationship problems with, but at the end of the day, I want to be able to talk to my partner--the person that I share my whole life and even my soul with. He was not that committed to me. I think not knowing every detail is almost better. I've read many instances here of people getting 'the truth' in drips and drabs, only to find that it's a partial truth, or that there's an entire other story not even being told. Are any of us really getting the *whole* truth? I'm a few years out from this experience now, and as you can see, it still hurts. I'm with someone new, and he's moved on too. I feel like I'm in a much better place, but you can't see that when you're at the bottom of the well that you feel like you're in, at that moment. Any of us in these situations really need to ask ourselves--where do you see your life in two years? I didn't have a family or a house with this guy, so the break was in some ways easier. If you can see yourself with the person that broke your heart, your trust, your image of them, then commit yourself to the work of repairing the relationship. For your own self-preservation, you need to feel like you tried. And if they feel like they need to work on it, you've got some sort of an obligation to work on it too. What might help is setting up boundaries (each of you). You can say, I will work on this, but if I see proof of you doing X, then I will Y. There are reasons why there are rules in this world. I don't know if any of that made sense, but there's my $0.02 Thanks for this reply. I agree it is a two-way street, and I absolutely agree with the statement that you should trust your instincts. I was not married, but I had been dating a guy for years, and saw some indications (messages left on other women’s myspace pages) and hiding his chat windows when I’d walk in the room, being vague about who the chat ‘friends’ are…you know the routine. Fast forward to him pulling out of the driveway while we were on vacation with me walking to the car, him on the way to a bar. He comes back drunk, passes out, and I have a bad feeling. I broke his trust by checking his text messages, and sure enough, there was a message to a girl on there. I felt broken by that, since–1) he left me in the driveway, 2) he texted her to tell her happy birthday at midnight, on the very day of her birthday, when he could barely remember (at 2 in the afternoon of my birthday) to tell me happy birthday, 3) he called her the pet name he called me. I confront him on everything that was bothering me, and of course he denies it. I’m being too sensitive, I’m reading too much into it, I had no right…ok, you got me on the last one, but if I hadn’t snooped, what more would you have done? I have not always been a saint, but none of us are. I had not even talked to anyone in a flirty way without letting them know that I have a boyfriend.

Cheating, unfortunately, involves more than the two people that are committing the act. He involved himself with another girl(s), and didnt’ bother to break it off with me. I felt cheated on. It was him betraying our agreement of exclusivity. He was getting emotional satisfaction from someone else, he was not letting me satisfy him, and I couldn’t. I understand that we each have people in our lives that we share different things with. I have friends that I talk work problems with, I have friends that I talk relationship problems with, but at the end of the day, I want to be able to talk to my partner–the person that I share my whole life and even my soul with. He was not that committed to me. I think not knowing every detail is almost better. I’ve read many instances here of people getting ‘the truth’ in drips and drabs, only to find that it’s a partial truth, or that there’s an entire other story not even being told. Are any of us really getting the *whole* truth?

I’m a few years out from this experience now, and as you can see, it still hurts. I’m with someone new, and he’s moved on too. I feel like I’m in a much better place, but you can’t see that when you’re at the bottom of the well that you feel like you’re in, at that moment.

Any of us in these situations really need to ask ourselves–where do you see your life in two years? I didn’t have a family or a house with this guy, so the break was in some ways easier. If you can see yourself with the person that broke your heart, your trust, your image of them, then commit yourself to the work of repairing the relationship. For your own self-preservation, you need to feel like you tried. And if they feel like they need to work on it, you’ve got some sort of an obligation to work on it too. What might help is setting up boundaries (each of you). You can say, I will work on this, but if I see proof of you doing X, then I will Y. There are reasons why there are rules in this world.

I don’t know if any of that made sense, but there’s my $0.02

]]> By: Veronica http://www.facebookcheating.com/archives/facebook-cheating/#comment-485 Veronica Tue, 27 Jul 2010 12:35:47 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?p=3#comment-485 I saw so many sad stories here and im feeling bad for all....and maybe my story have nothing to do with this but i really need advice cos i dont have no1 around me wich can help me..so..let me tell u in short..: We are in marriage for 6 years and we have 2 kids..he is 12 years older then me and start everything 7 months ago and im steel trying to find out what i did to deserve this..ok so 7 months ago i start haveing to much medical problems,went from one doc to other and no one didnt know whats wrong,all results were good and my health was worst until one of doc didnt say: lets make pregnancy test wich we did and it shows up that im pregnant 3 months but baby was stuck somewhere i gotinternial bleeding so they had to make sergury very soon otherwaise i was going to die..when i call my husbunt to come in hospital before i leave with emergency car he came with words:WHO IS THE FATHER OF THIS KID?? i was using fb but to be honest only for pioker game 1h every night without friends,just me,when i heard that i couldnt belive,i necver went out alone i was working in his sister company (mean whole day with her) after work with him and kids mean nowhere alone..so how can he ask me like this...but the worst start after surgery.While i was in hospital and fighting for my life he didnt even show up there didnt come to visit me 15 days while i was in hospital he even send my brother to pick me up from there...because i was working and colege in same time i had hired woman who was helping me with cleaning home...after i return home start my nightmare..i was bearly walking cos doctors had to remove some organs from me..he was forcing me to clean every day careing tuff things even he say if he see me siting even for 1 min he will kill me or kick me and never see my kids again..no metter what i did all i get was abusing..pushing here and there...laughing on me...raped severl times...i try to talk with parents but they said u was dateing him u choose him so now deal with that..so they never alow me to tell them whole story..now 7 months later im alowed to return to work and visiting some friends and family..i was like prisioner in house...now everytime when i use fb for poker i dont know whats he thinking he chek me everyday every min....pls give me some advice...i really cant stand this anymore its to painful..im there only for kids..ty and im sorry for disturbing u with this I saw so many sad stories here and im feeling bad for all….and maybe my story have nothing to do with this but i really need advice cos i dont have no1 around me wich can help me..so..let me tell u in short..:
We are in marriage for 6 years and we have 2 kids..he is 12 years older then me and start everything 7 months ago and im steel trying to find out what i did to deserve this..ok so 7 months ago i start haveing to much medical problems,went from one doc to other and no one didnt know whats wrong,all results were good and my health was worst until one of doc didnt say: lets make pregnancy test wich we did and it shows up that im pregnant 3 months but baby was stuck somewhere i gotinternial bleeding so they had to make sergury very soon otherwaise i was going to die..when i call my husbunt to come in hospital before i leave with emergency car he came with words:WHO IS THE FATHER OF THIS KID?? i was using fb but to be honest only for pioker game 1h every night without friends,just me,when i heard that i couldnt belive,i necver went out alone i was working in his sister company (mean whole day with her) after work with him and kids mean nowhere alone..so how can he ask me like this…but the worst start after surgery.While i was in hospital and fighting for my life he didnt even show up there didnt come to visit me 15 days while i was in hospital he even send my brother to pick me up from there…because i was working and colege in same time i had hired woman who was helping me with cleaning home…after i return home start my nightmare..i was bearly walking cos doctors had to remove some organs from me..he was forcing me to clean every day careing tuff things even he say if he see me siting even for 1 min he will kill me or kick me and never see my kids again..no metter what i did all i get was abusing..pushing here and there…laughing on me…raped severl times…i try to talk with parents but they said u was dateing him u choose him so now deal with that..so they never alow me to tell them whole story..now 7 months later im alowed to return to work and visiting some friends and family..i was like prisioner in house…now everytime when i use fb for poker i dont know whats he thinking he chek me everyday every min….pls give me some advice…i really cant stand this anymore its to painful..im there only for kids..ty and im sorry for disturbing u with this

]]> By: Lost and in pain http://www.facebookcheating.com/archives/facebook-cheating/#comment-473 Lost and in pain Sun, 25 Jul 2010 22:29:58 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?p=3#comment-473 I am glad to see I am not the only one in hell. My story is similar to some posted here. Discovered it all about 2 months ago...and I swear the past 2 months have felt like one long miserable day. My wife and i have been married about 16 years, we have 2 kids. We had a good life all around. I'll will summarize, that my wife befriended an old high school interest on FB, and chatted with him for about 9 months. Talked to him every night, they depended on each other. They started texting after 3 months and that went on all day for the last 6 months of the affair. Towards the end they started telling each other I love you - she even told him he was the love of her life. She tried to see him several times, they never managed to for various reasons, and stopped talking to her. She then started talking to another guy from high school, and they had dinner behind my back. I discovered this perhaps just in time who knows where it was headed. I have pretty much confiremd nothing physical ever happened, and she never planned to leave me...she never made arrangements to do a trip or over night with anyone or anything like that. But I am lost how the love of MY life could tune me out for a year to give and get affection online from another man, and then another after that. She says she never saw it as cheating because it wasn't physical...i think she knows better now. But despite all of my attempts over those 9 months to reconnect, get her off the computer (she said she was chatting with girlfriends, playing games etc.), i could not make it stop until I caught her and forced it all out. Absolute nightmare. Now what does one do? Fix a marriage for the kids, even though it feels like living in hell? Wondering what will happen next? Or divorce, and tell my kids they are in a broken marriage, and run the risk of another man raising my kids if she gets custody? Does this nightmare ever end? I am glad to see I am not the only one in hell. My story is similar to some posted here. Discovered it all about 2 months ago…and I swear the past 2 months have felt like one long miserable day. My wife and i have been married about 16 years, we have 2 kids. We had a good life all around. I’ll will summarize, that my wife befriended an old high school interest on FB, and chatted with him for about 9 months. Talked to him every night, they depended on each other. They started texting after 3 months and that went on all day for the last 6 months of the affair. Towards the end they started telling each other I love you – she even told him he was the love of her life. She tried to see him several times, they never managed to for various reasons, and stopped talking to her. She then started talking to another guy from high school, and they had dinner behind my back. I discovered this perhaps just in time who knows where it was headed. I have pretty much confiremd nothing physical ever happened, and she never planned to leave me…she never made arrangements to do a trip or over night with anyone or anything like that. But I am lost how the love of MY life could tune me out for a year to give and get affection online from another man, and then another after that. She says she never saw it as cheating because it wasn’t physical…i think she knows better now. But despite all of my attempts over those 9 months to reconnect, get her off the computer (she said she was chatting with girlfriends, playing games etc.), i could not make it stop until I caught her and forced it all out. Absolute nightmare. Now what does one do? Fix a marriage for the kids, even though it feels like living in hell? Wondering what will happen next? Or divorce, and tell my kids they are in a broken marriage, and run the risk of another man raising my kids if she gets custody? Does this nightmare ever end?

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