Comments on: Why I Started This Site http://www.facebookcheating.com Dealing With Facebook Affairs, Adultery and Infidelity Wed, 08 Sep 2010 13:18:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Get Real http://www.facebookcheating.com/about/#comment-524 Get Real Wed, 18 Aug 2010 23:25:45 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?page_id=2#comment-524 How about communicating better? Why does it take a cowardly affair to communicate to your unattentive husband? Did you not have the courage to confront him and give him the "pay attention or I will divorce you statement"? I am sure you got a temporary "high" from the affair. Yes, his unattentiveness was a legitmate gripe. But, how you handled your end of this was worse. I am sure he had gripes about what you didn't provide him in the marriage. Did he handle that by going to an affair? How about communicating better? Why does it take a cowardly affair to communicate to your unattentive husband? Did you not have the courage to confront him and give him the “pay attention or I will divorce you statement”? I am sure you got a temporary “high” from the affair. Yes, his unattentiveness was a legitmate gripe. But, how you handled your end of this was worse. I am sure he had gripes about what you didn’t provide him in the marriage. Did he handle that by going to an affair?

]]> By: Get Real http://www.facebookcheating.com/about/#comment-523 Get Real Wed, 18 Aug 2010 23:20:36 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?page_id=2#comment-523 Annie, What you say is true. But you left out that fb makes it much easier to reconnect with old flames or communicate with new ones. You can't blame fb for the cheating, but you can definitely say it makes it a h*ll of a lot easier to do. Annie,

What you say is true. But you left out that fb makes it much easier to reconnect with old flames or communicate with new ones. You can’t blame fb for the cheating, but you can definitely say it makes it a h*ll of a lot easier to do.

]]> By: Get Real http://www.facebookcheating.com/about/#comment-522 Get Real Wed, 18 Aug 2010 23:16:33 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?page_id=2#comment-522 Gavin - Really what did you expect from FBCheating.com? Did you think that the blogs here would not be about cheating? If you don't want to read stay off this web site. I am sure there are some very sad and hurt people here, so I'm assuming you are about 1% of the people who visit this site that have not had fbcheating experience happen to you. As you say - move on to your happy fb time. Remember, better to stay silent than reveal the fool that you are. Gavin – Really what did you expect from FBCheating.com? Did you think that the blogs here would not be about cheating? If you don’t want to read stay off this web site. I am sure there are some very sad and hurt people here, so I’m assuming you are about 1% of the people who visit this site that have not had fbcheating experience happen to you.

As you say – move on to your happy fb time.

Remember, better to stay silent than reveal the fool that you are.

]]> By: Curious Cat http://www.facebookcheating.com/about/#comment-520 Curious Cat Wed, 18 Aug 2010 13:25:08 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?page_id=2#comment-520 Robert, maybe your wife got confused by all those ridiculous contradictions in your "Bible" and lost her way. Or maybe she just got tired of living with a pompous born-again, and decided to find someone a little less self-involved with himself and his God. In case I haven't been clear, you are a complete idiot. Robert, maybe your wife got confused by all those ridiculous contradictions in your “Bible” and lost her way. Or maybe she just got tired of living with a pompous born-again, and decided to find someone a little less self-involved with himself and his God. In case I haven’t been clear, you are a complete idiot.

]]> By: Been There http://www.facebookcheating.com/about/#comment-516 Been There Wed, 11 Aug 2010 15:37:52 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?page_id=2#comment-516 Your situation is almost exactly like mine. My husband was contacted by a girl that he had met about 8 years ago when we first started dating and he never told me that they were in contact. In fact, I never even knew he had a facebook until I randomly saw his email up on his computer and saw that she had sent him a new facebook message. It led me to 'hack' into his facebook and I saw the messages. From what I read there was no sexual remarks to each other but there were some messages reminiscing old times and about how much fun they'd had together and such...apologies for how they'd fell out of touch, how happy they were to be back in touch, blah blah blah. It really hurt me to see that he was keeping these messages from me. Made me think quite possibly he was going to see how far it would go... The messages mentioned how he was married now almost a year, her married 2 and a half years and she actually lives about 400 miles away now...but neither mentioned anything else about their spouses... I jumped in by that time, confronted my husband about the communication behind my back and not telling me he had a facebook account and it turned into a lot of drama. He swore to me he would delete the account and he did. But I found out weeks later they were still emailing each other through regular email because her husband contacted me telling me so, and though the emails her husband sent me were yet again not romantic or sexual in nature, still very hurtful to be left in the cold because who knows what that could have turned into. It's been almost a year now, and he swears that all communication has stopped but every day I wonder. Literally every day. I hate that I have lost so much trust for a man I have loved for almost 9 years now. It kills me. I'm always wondering if there is something she has that he's wishing I had, or if he's regretting ending up with me instead of her. Your situation is almost exactly like mine. My husband was contacted by a girl that he had met about 8 years ago when we first started dating and he never told me that they were in contact. In fact, I never even knew he had a facebook until I randomly saw his email up on his computer and saw that she had sent him a new facebook message. It led me to ‘hack’ into his facebook and I saw the messages. From what I read there was no sexual remarks to each other but there were some messages reminiscing old times and about how much fun they’d had together and such…apologies for how they’d fell out of touch, how happy they were to be back in touch, blah blah blah. It really hurt me to see that he was keeping these messages from me. Made me think quite possibly he was going to see how far it would go…
The messages mentioned how he was married now almost a year, her married 2 and a half years and she actually lives about 400 miles away now…but neither mentioned anything else about their spouses… I jumped in by that time, confronted my husband about the communication behind my back and not telling me he had a facebook account and it turned into a lot of drama. He swore to me he would delete the account and he did. But I found out weeks later they were still emailing each other through regular email because her husband contacted me telling me so, and though the emails her husband sent me were yet again not romantic or sexual in nature, still very hurtful to be left in the cold because who knows what that could have turned into. It’s been almost a year now, and he swears that all communication has stopped but every day I wonder. Literally every day. I hate that I have lost so much trust for a man I have loved for almost 9 years now. It kills me. I’m always wondering if there is something she has that he’s wishing I had, or if he’s regretting ending up with me instead of her.

]]> By: Lovinthesite http://www.facebookcheating.com/about/#comment-508 Lovinthesite Wed, 04 Aug 2010 13:01:01 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?page_id=2#comment-508 After reading over this site for the past hour I must say it is quite interesting. With that being said I must also say that some of the people here need to realized FB is not the reason for the devastation of your relationships; the people you were in relationships are!!! FB was created to stay connected with family and friends out of reach on a regular basis. How it is used is not the creator's fault. Think about it. When it comes to guns, they were create for hunting and protection. When some idiot senselessly shoots someone and kills them (or hurts them) we don't turn around and say, "That damn gun! Thank you gun inventor for killing my (whomever)." No we say that dumb mfer killed my loved one senselessly. If your spouse or other half is cheating then there is something in them that tells them they need more out of what your are offering. It looks like alot of these comments are from long time relationships, these people may have very well been bored with their marriages. It is our responsibility to nourish our realtionships and we can only do so much! If someone cheats on you, don't blame the person they are cheating with! Don't blamed the tool they used to cheat with! Blame them! If FB and other networks did not exsist these people would still cheat. They would find people on the streets they would find that spare peace somewhere! Then what do we do blame God for giving us speech?! Come on people. Reevaluate what has happened and realize that an inanimate object (or site) is not the reason for your realtionship/life problems. The people that abuse them are! After reading over this site for the past hour I must say it is quite interesting. With that being said I must also say that some of the people here need to realized FB is not the reason for the devastation of your relationships; the people you were in relationships are!!! FB was created to stay connected with family and friends out of reach on a regular basis. How it is used is not the creator’s fault. Think about it. When it comes to guns, they were create for hunting and protection. When some idiot senselessly shoots someone and kills them (or hurts them) we don’t turn around and say, “That damn gun! Thank you gun inventor for killing my (whomever).” No we say that dumb mfer killed my loved one senselessly.
If your spouse or other half is cheating then there is something in them that tells them they need more out of what your are offering. It looks like alot of these comments are from long time relationships, these people may have very well been bored with their marriages. It is our responsibility to nourish our realtionships and we can only do so much! If someone cheats on you, don’t blame the person they are cheating with! Don’t blamed the tool they used to cheat with! Blame them!
If FB and other networks did not exsist these people would still cheat. They would find people on the streets they would find that spare peace somewhere! Then what do we do blame God for giving us speech?!
Come on people. Reevaluate what has happened and realize that an inanimate object (or site) is not the reason for your realtionship/life problems. The people that abuse them are!

]]> By: Yahya http://www.facebookcheating.com/about/#comment-507 Yahya Wed, 04 Aug 2010 09:10:56 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?page_id=2#comment-507 I still don't understand how could a husband or wife cheat their love one? I can't believe it. Think very well. What makes u cheat ur wife or husband? And especially ur kids. Even if u got away with it, I believe there is a time where you'll eventually caught. I still don’t understand how could a husband or wife cheat their love one? I can’t believe it. Think very well. What makes u cheat ur wife or husband? And especially ur kids. Even if u got away with it, I believe there is a time where you’ll eventually caught.

]]> By: Yahya http://www.facebookcheating.com/about/#comment-506 Yahya Wed, 04 Aug 2010 08:53:14 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?page_id=2#comment-506 I am sorry to hear all this, but I am just glad I am Muslim, god allowed me to have up to 4 wife if the wife is ok with. I am only 19yrs and I never have a realtionship in my life because I can't, it is against my religion to have a realatioship before I get married. Anyway, I am leaving this comment to just say that if you marry someone who has the beliefs whether both Christian or Jewish or none believers, there shouldn't be a problem. I bet all of you who has commented here are none Muslim. I am not saying you have to be a Muslim to have a successful marriage but I have never seen my dad and mom had a problem in relationship, neither all the people I grew up with, honestly if u ever think ur husband or wife maybe cheating on u then you're doing something wrong, maybe there is a reason why ur husband or wife is looking for another relationship or anyone at all. The wife can stay away from relationship or maybe find a new person but Something that really makes me sad is that the kids, if you a had a kid(s) and that relationship didn't go so well, then I have no clue how to live in this world without a mom or dad, i haven't experience that but I do know one thing for sure, without a mom or dad is just Harmful, immoral and anything you cant imagine and something you will never forget in ur entire life. One again, I might not know a lot about relationship but I wish you the best, and if u have kid(s). Especially the kids, it's tough to live without a mom or dad. I have a friends that don't have one of their parent and it just makes me really sad for them and at the same time lucky. Thank you all for reading this! And good luck finding the best, honest, and unique husband or wife:) I am sorry to hear all this, but I am just glad I am Muslim, god allowed me to have up to 4 wife if the wife is ok with. I am only 19yrs and I never have a realtionship in my life because I can’t, it is against my religion to have a realatioship before I get married. Anyway, I am leaving this comment to just say that if you marry someone who has the beliefs whether both Christian or Jewish or none believers, there shouldn’t be a problem. I bet all of you who has commented here are none Muslim. I am not saying you have to be a Muslim to have a successful marriage but I have never seen my dad and mom had a problem in relationship, neither all the people I grew up with, honestly if u ever think ur husband or wife maybe cheating on u then you’re doing something wrong, maybe there is a reason why ur husband or wife is looking for another relationship or anyone at all. The wife can stay away from relationship or maybe find a new person but Something that really makes me sad is that the kids, if you a had a kid(s) and that relationship didn’t go so well, then I have no clue how to live in this world without a mom or dad, i haven’t experience that but I do know one thing for sure, without a mom or dad is just Harmful, immoral and anything you cant imagine and something you will never forget in ur entire life.

One again, I might not know a lot about relationship but I wish you the best, and if u have kid(s). Especially the kids, it’s tough to live without a mom or dad. I have a friends that don’t have one of their parent and it just makes me really sad for them and at the same time lucky.

Thank you all for reading this! And good luck finding the best, honest, and unique husband or wife:)

]]> By: Dan http://www.facebookcheating.com/about/#comment-504 Dan Wed, 04 Aug 2010 06:22:34 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?page_id=2#comment-504 You seem very rational about everything, which is good because it means you'll be fine. Leave your man and when he regrets everything and comes crawling back, reject him. In this life we only get what we demand. If you are willing to tolerate abuse, you will be abused. If your minimum standards are high, you will be alone for a while but then you will find someone wonderful. You seem very rational about everything, which is good because it means you’ll be fine.

Leave your man and when he regrets everything and comes crawling back, reject him.

In this life we only get what we demand. If you are willing to tolerate abuse, you will be abused. If your minimum standards are high, you will be alone for a while but then you will find someone wonderful.

]]> By: cheryl http://www.facebookcheating.com/about/#comment-503 cheryl Wed, 04 Aug 2010 06:04:29 +0000 http://www.facebookcheating.com/?page_id=2#comment-503 How can a man ignore his wife, be unkind, while raising his children to be cruel to her be confused why she needed attention from another man?! I have been so very lonely for so long, then someone came along and made me feel like I mattered, that I wasn't repulsive. I ate that up. I needed the words and the "pretend" relationship. But sex was out of the question. I love my husband and when he found out about this situation, he freaked. He decided after lots of prayer that he did love me and I wasn't all that bad. Listen people............. DON'T IGNORE YOUR SPOUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! People were made to need love and attention. If an affair, whether it was emotional and or physical, look at your part. Did you love your spouse? Or did you ignore them and make them feel like a pile of crap? Take responsiblity for your part. Fair is fair. How can a man ignore his wife, be unkind, while raising his children to be cruel to her be confused why she needed attention from another man?! I have been so very lonely for so long, then someone came along and made me feel like I mattered, that I wasn’t repulsive. I ate that up. I needed the words and the “pretend” relationship. But sex was out of the question.
I love my husband and when he found out about this situation, he freaked. He decided after lots of prayer that he did love me and I wasn’t all that bad. Listen people…………. DON’T IGNORE YOUR SPOUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! People were made to need love and attention. If an affair, whether it was emotional and or physical, look at your part. Did you love your spouse? Or did you ignore them and make them feel like a pile of crap? Take responsiblity for your part. Fair is fair.

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