Facebook Cheating

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  Maria

  October 27, 2009 at 6:04 am

  I really do connect with your stor, my story goes as follows: My Husband and I have been together for 9 years now, we are married for 2 months and I am 7 months pregnant with our first born. He started with facebook in beginning of October, mostly just for family communication and history purposes as he likes talking to people. But after a few weeks I started seeing that he invites woman he does not even know to be his frond on facebook. He views their pictures that is mostly naked women on a bed and sends them comment like if he was on top of them hell, never get off, now not to be ugly, I would love to hear him say that to me but, there is no luck, if we have sex once in 2 months it is allot and even when it does happen, He holds out for about 30 seconds and he cannot wait to get off me.
  So what I am currently doing, not knowing if it is fair or not, the right thing to do or not but I just need to know.
  I have set up an facebook account with a non existing women profile with some naked picture for his viewing and invited him, He accepted the invitation and first thing he wanted to know is where this mystery woman lives, The woman told him that she lives near him and wants to schedule a date with him during the weekend and I am now currently waiting his reponse, Actually I am to scared to see what the responce is going to be, I do not know what I will do, but by tomorrow, I will know for sure if you will cheat on me or not, they say prevention is better than cure, so well see what happens, lets hope for the best. Thanks for reading. And I pray to God for a good result, I have been through so many infidelity issues before, my heart will not be able to handle another one. One lucky thing on my side, he is not so clued up with computers. I at least know a bit more than he does. Once again, I thank you.

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    Roxy

    November 13, 2009 at 9:56 pm

    Great idea.I have often thought of doing the same. My guy can always excuse away or reason away. It’s ridiculous. Just be flippin honest and move on.And you are strong and never forget that.You can and will be absolutely fine in the world. I wish I was computer savvy.My guy is, very savvy, and very sly.You do what you need to do and don’t ever look back…….continue to move yourself forward, with or without him

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  Roxy

  November 13, 2009 at 9:45 pm

  This is all interesting.And how come no women telling of their men cheating with FB? Afterall, the women are contacting men and those men are contacting back and they may too be in a marriage or committed relationship.My man has been hooked on FB for sometime now.Claims it is for business networking.Really?75% of your “friends”are females.And in status I noticed a month ago he put single, interested in women.When I commented on that he said Oh, I’ve had this FB account for a long time before you. Well no actually not, you just got this going this year.So he changed it to in a relationship and left interested in blank. Told me I was insecure and he found that to be very unattractive.He has cheated on me in the past ( we have been together 5 years).Said how very sorry he was and he wished it never happened and all that yada.I was understanding and forgiving and we agreed to wipe slate clean and communicate better.All of it incredibly devastating in so many ways, as you all know.I really had the best hopes and faith and highest intentions for us.He would continually bring up other woman.I’d say please don’t compare me to her and why are you bringing up the past?It’s past, it’s done, it’s over.He was always into all the porn sites, dating sites, craigslist classifieds women seeking men.Said he stopped it all.Then I’d hear him click off whenever I came down hall…I’d peek in while passing and he’s staring at a blank screen.I thought it odd after awhile. So I snuck very quietly one day, and there he was typing away to some female.I said What are you doing? He clicked off immediately and said What?You scared me!What do you mean what am I doing?I’m not doing anything. I said Yes you are, please be honest. He started to laugh and said Oh honey, you’re so cute.You’re just funny thinking all your wild imagined things.You make me laugh.I said This isn’t a cute moment, don’t play me for so naive, be honest. Then he got angry and defensive and said If I want to talk to other women I will, and you are just too insecure, I’ve told you before how unattractive that is to me.You can’t stop me from talking to women, so just deal with it. I said there’s talking and there’s “talking”……you need to be mindful of that. He is always looking up old high school girls he knew.He and his brother always talking about finding this one or that one.And let me make it perfectly clear here…I am attractive woman.I feel I am secure.I love taking care of my man.I enjoy sex and desire it.I love to cook for him, clean up from him, do his laundry, give him a massage, rub his feet , tend to him when he is feeling ill……I love everything about a man in my life.And I have never denied him his freedoms to go out and do whatever.But let me tell you, once you’ve been cheated on, I do feel the cheating partner, who wants to repair and mend the relationship…I would think he/she would be offering up any and all info so as to not create any doubts, I think the behavior ought to be that of a person genuinely willing and wanting to rebuild and instill that trust.There is something wrong with this world.Cell phones and internet have made it very easy for people to lie, deceive, cheat, manipulate.Where have values and integrity gone?Who the hell is left out there with a conscience? I hate all those sites……so many weak people who easily get sucked into stupid irrational behavior.Because they think they can get away with it.Oh it’s just harmless flirting. Please. Let’s get real.My man ( and I use the word loosely) is in fact a liar and a cheater.And probably always will be.And will find any excuse to blame me for it. i didn’t do this enough, I didn’t do that enough, I’m too wealthy, I’m not wealthy enough, I’m out of his league, I’m not smart enough, I’m too smart, I just don’t understand, I just don’t listen……..and on and on.It’s nice to know you guys are devastated, you guys seem to be the few good men out there, and I am sorry for what you’ve been thru…….I know it very well myself.Been there, done that, got the scar. I’m not gonna let him steal my dream.I’m not gonna become bitter and sour.Hope you guys do the same. Because there are reasons for all things.And all things do get better.Trouble has an expiration date. Good things are coming for us all.Because we deserve it.And because it’s just the way the world works.Sometimes ya gotta go thru somethings really sucky to get to the truely good stuff that’s meant for you.I wish every day that my guy would come in the door and be a new man, a real man……the one I always believed him to be. But I think that is not gonna ever happen.He’s just too hooked on all these sites.I know I am a terrific woman, but I know there is no way I can compete with the internet.
  Best to you all.

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  Lauren

  December 4, 2009 at 2:02 pm

  Wow, I am glad to see that I am not the only one that this happened to. After five years in a relationship where we also lived together, I caught my boyfriend cheating using facebook chat. I like others would also walk out into the room at night and see him closing the chat window but I had never thought anything of it. We had a good, loving relationship with the usual ups and downs. About a month ago he went out and left his facebook up on our computer, a chat window was open, I opened it and my life changed in an instant. It was him having a conversation with a girl that was our friend talking about how much the loved each other. Its been a real tough time but at least I was able to find out, rather than this having continued for months behind my back.

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  esther

  January 14, 2010 at 4:19 am

  My, for lack of a better word, insignificant other and I have a 16, 11, 4, and 2 year old. I left him almost 10 years ago because of his cheating ways and moved nearly 1000 miles. About six years ago we decided to reconcile. It’s been really hard, because I never really trusted him. About six months ago he joined Facebook. It seemed harmless, so I did too. A few months ago I noticed that he would be opening a new page as soon as I walked into the bedroom or he would be playing Mofia Wars. I noticed that a particular girl was ALWAYS playing with him. I question him about it, but he said I was IMAGINING things. Finally, I checked her FB and found out he was dedicating a love song to her! She even made a committ about my 2 year old. She said,”I wish I could kiss his cheeks,” and said that my insignificant others profile pic “looked good .” After weeks of arguing he admitted he has been having a relationship with her. I told him to leave and he said he needs 400 to move to the city where she live. I just want him gone….. I feel like my children and I have suffered enough! But, I’m not dumb enough to give him money!

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  Jessica Woike

  January 21, 2010 at 5:15 pm

  Hi…
  I’m a producer for a TV station in Sacramento. We are working on a story about Facebook and Divorce. Wanted to see if you would be willing to talk with us about the site.
  Thanks!

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    liedtoandcheatedon

    February 13, 2010 at 10:42 pm

    Jessica,

    I’ve not posted on this site previously but would be willing to speak with you about your story. I am a professional woman with a husband who used social networking sites to flirt with a woman he worked with. They later began an affair.

    I had always felt so fortunate to have such a loving, caring man in my life; fully embraced by all my friends and family. I also had tremendous love and respect for his.

    Such was my trust that I was completely oblivious to the entire thing although there were “signs”; I simply could not see them for what they were until long after the fact. Or, if I did notice “something”, it was momentary and quickly written off as just my “imagination”.

    It seems almost ridiculous now, for a woman my age and experience, but I never doubted, never once questioned the integrity of this man. I never once felt the need to “check up” on his activities online, never went through his wallet or phone or… anything. Ever. i mean, I had complete access (passwords etc), so why would he even think to use these tools in his deception?

    This may have been precisely the point. Contrary to what I’ve read here, this affair was totally accessible to discovery and yet when he announced he was leaving I never saw it coming..

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      ragdoll

      February 21, 2010 at 9:08 am

      jessica i will be willing to talk with you also
      liedto….you sound like me i never thought he would cheat and he didnt do it on facebook he used another site but i found out when everything was gone including my marrage of 19 years I never even thought to look i always thought marrage was about trust but i was the fool there….
      Facebook has brought me to the most wonderful man ever use facebook to find someone for you..
      oh for the record my hubby has flown all over the us looking for his girl and everytime he thinks they are meeting she has some excuse for why she cant meet him. The latest was valentines weekend he spent more than 60 hours in different airports trying to see her and at every airport she had a message for him on why she couldnt be there LOL
      My divorce will be final in 6 days and I dont even know if he ever saw her in person….I don’t really care anymore I have the kids thats all I wanted..
      Oh a note to anyone going through all this get a fast divorce so your spouse is still in “love” with there new flinf they tend to agree with everything I wonder if mine even read the papers he signed

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  Rosemberg Padilla

  February 17, 2010 at 3:30 am

  I also had problems with this FaceBook thing, in my opinion and by personal experience these Socializing websites are nothing but a tool to destroy relationships and marriages.
  My wife and I moved from CT to an apartment in NYC because both of us thought it would be a better idea for us to expend some more time together, I would not have to drive a long way home from work and viceversa.
  My wife and I had a great relationship for 6 years, we were happy and most important we had great communication, However for the worst of our relationship a friend of my wife introduced her to Facebook. Like a good husband I thought it would be a great idea so that she could entertain herself but this is when all the problems started.

  My wife used to be always happy and with her arms open to hug me each day I got home, but all of the sudden this started to change.
  She was always sitting on that darn computer with her facebook, talking to a suppose High School friend, and when I approached the computer she quickly closed it so that I couldn’t see.
  I thought deep inside me that there was something going on, but I acted it like if I was not suspecting anything.
  She stopped having dinner for me, and also she used to go very late to sleep (early hours in the morning 3-4 AM) so I also was ending by sleeping by myself.
  Then she started to change her look, hair style and was very distant to me.

  We always had good communication, so I approached her and asked her what was going on, why was she acting like that, and what was she doing all that time on the computer.
  She told me it was nothing, just her friends from high school and some family, but that she was sorry because she was just getting addicted too much to facebook.

  One day she went to take a shower and she left her cellular in the bed and it received a text message (which by the way are another tool to destroy relationships). It was a message from some guy telling her to go on Facebook, because he had a great time with her the night before. I thought immediately, “They are having cyber sex or something like that”

  Once she came out of the shower I told her, that she had received a txt on her phone and that I though it was her mother and looked, but instead it was some guy telling her to go on facebook, I asked her who he was, and her response was “oh that is my gay friend from high schoo, he wants to talk to me about his boyfriend.l”

  I played like nothing again, but the next day I went online at work and I found that I could install in my computer a monitoring software and that I could see everything going on in the computer anywhere I was.
  I installed it and went to work, and that is when I got completely shocked. My wife was having sexual chats with the “GAY FRIEND” and she was also telling him to be careful with the txts on the phone, to txt her only in the afternoons when I was not there.
  She was also telling him that I didn’t know anything and that besides she had told me that he was gay.
  I got so upset and lost my concentration at the office, but I kept monitoring her.
  Then I saw she was telling him to go with her to the movies again, because he had “magical fingers” Which left me with no more but a stab in my heart. For my luck they were going to meet again at a theater by 42 street and they talked about which movie and the time. I run out of my office, took a digital camera with me and went to the movies to wait for them inside.
  I looked at them and they went straight to the back of the theater to kiss each other, So I went immediately with my camera and took a picture of them kissing. When she saw me she did nothing but to cry.
  Next day I got my layer and I used the picture and all the chats from Facebook to get a divorce.
  Later on found out that the “Gay guy” who she was kissing with so passionately was not even a friend from her high school, but that she had met him on Facebook itself.

  In conclusion if you want to have your relationship or your marriage healthy, keep facebook, myspace, and text messages away from your life.
  FACEBOOK=DIVORCE
  Trust me.

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    Charles Reves

    February 17, 2010 at 1:53 pm

    I also had a similar story with my wife and a “GAY GUY”, We had been always a happy couple, for over 5 years, but when facebook and myspace came to our lives it destroyed our relationship, Now we are divorced and she lives with her “Gay Friend”
    Looks like a lot of guys go online with the excuse of being gay so that they make friends out of girls easier and then they start working their way around to take your girl/wife and destroy happy families.
    I wish they had never invented that type of websites, they are nothing but an easy way to cheat at home while you are at work killing your back and the worst part is you would not suspect anything easy because all is hidden in the computer.

    Please if you don’t want to end up like me and other people who lost their happiness because some dude came out of nowhere and talked your girlfriend or wife away from you…………..GET RID OF FACEBOOK OR ANYTHING SIMILAR, THOSE SITES WILL BE THE BEGINNING OF THE END OF YOUR HAPPY RELATIONSHIP.

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  Rosemberg Padilla

  February 17, 2010 at 3:33 am

  I also had problems with this FaceBook thing, in my opinion and by personal experience these Socializing websites are nothing but a tool to destroy relationships and marriages.
  My wife and I moved from CT to an apartment in NYC because both of us thought it would be a better idea for us to expend some more time together, I would not have to drive a long way home from work and viceversa.
  My wife and I had a great relationship for 10 years, we were happy and most important we had great communication, However for the worst of our relationship a friend of my wife introduced her to Facebook. Like a good husband I thought it would be a great idea so that she could entertain herself but this is when all the problems started.

  My wife used to be always happy and with her arms open to hug me each day I got home, but all of the sudden this started to change.
  She was always sitting on that darn computer with her facebook, talking to a suppose High School friend, and when I approached the computer she quickly closed it so that I couldn’t see.
  I thought deep inside me that there was something going on, but I acted it like if I was not suspecting anything.
  She stopped having dinner for me, and also she used to go very late to sleep (early hours in the morning 3-4 AM) so I also was ending by sleeping by myself.
  Then she started to change her look, hair style and was very distant to me.

  We always had good communication, so I approached her and asked her what was going on, why was she acting like that, and what was she doing all that time on the computer.
  She told me it was nothing, just her friends from high school and some family, but that she was sorry because she was just getting addicted too much to facebook.

  One day she went to take a shower and she left her cellular in the bed and it received a text message (which by the way are another tool to destroy relationships). It was a message from some guy telling her to go on Facebook, because he had a great time with her the night before. I thought immediately, “They are having cyber sex or something like that”

  Once she came out of the shower I told her, that she had received a txt on her phone and that I though it was her mother and looked, but instead it was some guy telling her to go on facebook, I asked her who he was, and her response was “oh that is my gay friend from high schoo, he wants to talk to me about his boyfriend.l”

  I played like nothing again, but the next day I went online at work and I found that I could install in my computer a monitoring software and that I could see everything going on in the computer anywhere I was.
  I installed it and went to work, and that is when I got completely shocked. My wife was having sexual chats with the “GAY FRIEND” and she was also telling him to be careful with the txts on the phone, to txt her only in the afternoons when I was not there.
  She was also telling him that I didn’t know anything and that besides she had told me that he was gay.
  I got so upset and lost my concentration at the office, but I kept monitoring her.
  Then I saw she was telling him to go with her to the movies again, because he had “magical fingers” Which left me with no more but a stab in my heart. For my luck they were going to meet again at a theater by 42 street and they talked about which movie and the time. I run out of my office, took a digital camera with me and went to the movies to wait for them inside.
  I looked at them and they went straight to the back of the theater to kiss each other, So I went immediately with my camera and took a picture of them kissing. When she saw me she did nothing but to cry.
  Next day I got my layer and I used the picture and all the chats from Facebook to get a divorce.
  Later on found out that the “Gay guy” who she was kissing with so passionately was not even a friend from her high school, but that she had met him on Facebook itself.

  In conclusion if you want to have your relationship or your marriage healthy, keep facebook, myspace, and text messages away from your life.
  FACEBOOK=DIVORCE
  Trust me.

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